I am an emotional being to my very core.  I feed on emotion (not only my own but others as well).  Let me tell you…. it’s not an easy road to hoe.  For an emotional over-eater and food addict, being overly emotional and sensitive is not that great.  Because I care far too much about making other people happy and peaceful and not much about making my own-self feel that way.

I think it’s become one of those things where I need to just learn how to step away from that emotionally.  I need to put my emotions into perspective (if you will).  Because for me, being overweight means a lot more than just eating more than I should or not exercising enough.  It’s a whole overhaul on my emotional core and the way I think about things.  You know what they say… weight loss is 90% mental and 10% everything else.

If I change my internal dialog, it would go something like this:

“I am worthy.  I am a good person.  I have a kind heart.  I try my best.  If someone is having an off day and takes it out on me, it is NOT my fault.  I can’t help their behavior.”

Many times I feel that I need to *fix* people, or situations.  Sometimes I feel guilty by association or guilty because I am there.  Low self-esteem is a devil in itself.  Low self-esteem tells you that you are not worthy and if person A, B and C are mad it is because of something you did (or didn’t do).  I need to tell low self-esteem to stick it where the sun doesn’t shine, because it has no place in my life.

I really respect Dr. Phil.  His advice makes sense to me.  I recently read an article about eliminating your negative internal dialog .  I would like to share it with you.  In part of his article Dr. Phil notes that our internal dialog shapes the way we see the world and the way we react.

Your internal dialogue powerfully programs and shapes your self-concept. If you believe you are worthy and strong, you will live up to that truth. The following exercises will help to focus your habits and patterns and hopefully set you free of some of your negative internal dialogue.

He advises us that we should take a day (when we have very little going on) to listen to our internal dialog and every two hours, review our thoughts. What did we tell ourselves within those two hours? He then goes on to say that we should write it down. Understanding our internal dialog is the only way to change it.

I am going to buy both of these and hopefully gain more insight into changing my own internal dialog:

If I *talk* to myself differently, that will go a long way in changing how I value myself and how I allow others to treat me.