Comments on: Weird tales from the scale and getting over mommy guilt

By: Hal

Hal — Tue, 04 May 2010 04:44:48 +0000

I’m not a mom, so I don’t have mommy guilt per se, but the bottom line is that no matter who you are and where you are in life, there’s always someone who will critique how you spend your time. It might be you, it might be your husband, might be the neighbor, might be the boss… Everyone has an opinion. And what I finally realized a few years ago is that people have to be shown that in terms of time expenditure, quality more than makes up for quantity.

If you have to take an hour or two out of your day and away from your kids to exercise, but that hour or two allows you to play with them and run around, do it. Your kids will thank you, and if you don’t believe me, ask them.

I had to show this to my boyfriend when he was spending weekends with me and I needed some time to myself. At first he took it very personally when I wanted an hour alone, but after he saw that when I got my alone time I was no longer grumpy and sad, he understood.

By: liz

liz — Tue, 04 May 2010 03:22:06 +0000

i don’t have any scale tales, i am avoiding my scale currently :/

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 03 May 2010 16:16:02 +0000

I am not sure if we ever get over the mommy guilt. My twins turn 18 on Mother’s Day and I still sometimes feel it. I wish I would have learned when they were little to make time for myself, insteat of just a couple of years ago, or 8 months ago when I started working out. Great loss keep it up!

By: Anonymous Fat Girl

Anonymous Fat Girl — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 12:22:45 +0000

First of all, congrats on the loss!

And secondly, I can relate to the mommy guilt. It’s so hard!!! People always say you have to give yourself time away from the kids but sometimes it’s easier said that done. I applaud you for getting out and hitting the bike for awhile. I still feel guilty at times when I’m away from the kids. Especially when John and I try to do a date night (which hardly ever happens) but we both have been working hard at not discussing the kids much when we are away because that causes all of the feelings of guilt and then we can’t enjoy ourselves. Still a work in progress on that.

By: Diane Fit to the Finish

Diane Fit to the Finish — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 02:00:52 +0000

I am a mom and know exactly how you feel. It’s so rewarding when you see your children make healthy choices.

Congratulations on the loss!

By: Tiff

Tiff — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 00:44:25 +0000

I just love your blog! You honesty is so refreshing- I think you are probably a great mom

By: Katie J

Katie J — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 21:46:06 +0000

Good loss and not a mom but can imagine how it must feel. Hard to balance it all!

By: Julie Lost and Found

Julie Lost and Found — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 16:30:22 +0000

How about, “if mama ain’t happy ain’t no one happy”?

Or…you are the teapot and the kids are the cups. You can’t fill the cups if you aren’t full of tea, right?

We all have mommy guilt. I feel it often, but I think the whole “mommy wars” thing in society puts a lot of unnecessary guilt and pressure on us.

At the conference I went to this last weekend, there was a fabulous speaker, Cheryl Richardson, who has a book called “The Art of Extreme Self Care”. I thumbed through it and it looked great..and practical. It’s on my list to get.

My two youngest are 6 and 8 and I have to say, I’m finally taking care of myself so that I CAN take care of them!

No weird scale tales here..except I retain POUNDS each month. I’ve moved away from the scale. I was getting on it daily and it was driving me nuts. Now it’s more like once a month. I should find a happy medium.

By: Happy Fun Pants

Happy Fun Pants — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 14:20:57 +0000

I’m not a mom, but your mindset sounds right on track with what is healthy.

And congrats on the weight loss – so happy for you to see that your hard work DID pay off!

By: Karen @ WaistingTime

Karen @ WaistingTime — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 14:13:30 +0000

Is there such a thing as NO mommy guilt? I strongly believe that you need to sometimes put yourself first, hard as that can be. If we moms are not happy and healthy, the whole family suffers! I applaud you for being a role model for your kids and for including them in your healthy lifestyle.

I can only tell you that my scale, like most, is a fickle creature. And surely he is male! Many would tell us to ignore the scale, but I just can’t. Sigh.