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The date night challenge

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Tonight is the first official date night I have had with my husband since beginning this journey.  Tonight will be for part business and part pleasure.  The business part:  we’ll be meeting with our Realtor to see the house again and talk house stuff.  We’re going to decide just how long we want to wait out this short sale before deciding to move on.  All of this will take place over drinks.

I am taking the time to prepare for date night.  That includes trying out the new acne products I purchased a few days ago. I really want to be fresh-faced for my date.

So, i’m taking some care to have a strategy in place for myself in regards to both food and drink tonight.  I want to make sure that I will make the right choices.  If I tried this on the fly, I don’t know that I would be as successful with it.  So I am trying to plan as much as possible.

How do you handle “date night” with your significant other?  Do you set boundaries for yourself ahead of time?  Do you wing it?  Do you choose date nights as the only night you splurge?

Mom The Wonder Spaz

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I’ve been the epitome of stress lately.  Look up ‘stress’ in the dictionary and surely there will be a picture of me.  And the intense stress has been causing me to spaz… just a little.

We have been hitting the pavement since the beginning of July in search of our first home.  As you might imagine, looking for houses with three kids is sometimes a little hectic.  The kids have been wonderful for the most part, but I have to admit, the shiney new exterior of “house hunting” has worn off for them.  And quite frankly, it has worn off for me too.

We have put 6 offers in on homes.  4 offers have been turned down…. we’re waiting for number 5 to be turned down (the Realtor has turned it into a bidding war) and number 6 will probably turn us down sometime this week (I am expecting Wednesday or Thursday will probably be another “bad news day”… ).

I shouldn’t let my emotions get into this.  My husband keeps telling me to get my emotions out of the equation.  But it’s hard.  For someone who is so emotion-driven, separating my emotions from a situation is like separating a car from its engine.

I have been so verklempt over this situation that I have been eating so much.  Shoving each morsel of food into my mouth in hopes of pacifying my feelings.

I shouldn’t get this intense about the situation.  I should be calm and advocate a  Kay Syrah Syrah environment…. but i’m not.  And I don’t know how to separate myself from these intense feelings.  Feelings that I have come to recognize as my need for control.

At the moment I feel like a wonder spaz and I can only hope that the spaziness will be short-lived.